Published by Greenleaf Book Group Press on Expected publication: March 11th 2014
Your default programming—the automatic choices all of us make in life without even noticing—can sabotage you, but you can learn to interrupt your self-defeating behavior and make better choices. Steven J. Fogel shares what scientists have discovered about your ability to “rewire” your brain to act in ways that will make you happier and offers sage advice about how to resolve long-term dysfunctional relationships that are causing you stress, frustration, and pain. Put the past where it belongs—in the past. Be mindful, live in the present, and lead a fulfilling life full of possibilities!
This book is chock full of real information. If you’re looking for a ton of (over my head) science then this may not be for you, but if you want a practical, thought provoking book that you can actually understand, then this is totally for you!
Let’s be honest, changing how you think can be an arduous task. I started doing this on my own just about four years ago. It was very difficult and to this day I still have to work at it. This book makes it look so easy. And honestly, I loved this from the get go. I was able to look at my life right away and think about the scenarios that are in this and apply them. Even as easy as it is to read it is still full of info so I had to take it in chunks. Actually it has so much info that I will probably re-read it. Especially since I normally read a book in a few days and I made sure to read this one slowly, and again in bits, so it took me about a month. And it is a bit simplistic so it may not take you long at all to read this but I really enjoy these types of books and I love getting them into my brain so taking them in chunks is the best way to do this for me.
I also really enjoyed the fact that once I read something I felt that I could easily discuss this info with other people. I’ve read some books where I had to read one chapter over and over again just to get the concept inserted into my brain. And again, Mr. Fogel talks about his own therapy which to me means so much. We all have some issues in our life and he’s willing to help us face those issues head on and work through them.
As I said, a bit simplistic but will be perfect for someone that isn’t looking for the science behind the brain but how to stop your brain from beating you up! And that in itself makes this book awesome!
Steven Jay Fogel set a goal of becoming a millionaire by the time he was 30. He achieved his objective and was proud of his success, living the lifestyle he’d always dreamed of. He had a talent for making and keeping money.
But his happiness was fleeting. He soon found that the old line “Money can’t buy happiness” was true—and the joke was on him!
At 26, he had a lovely home, a wife and, soon, kids. At 36, he came home every night to a Hollywood mansion, a picture-perfect family and all the things he’d thought he was supposed to have. He was outgoing, good at telling jokes and stories, and usually had a smile on his face.
But no matter how much he accomplished—how much he had—he never felt truly happy for long.
For the past 35 years, he’s been searching for answers to the psychological and spiritual mysteries of life. He engaged in every method for self-transformation that came across his path, hoping to find the antidote to his emotional pain. He became a painter and a writer; took up music, acting and standup comedy; and produced independent films, in addition to running his company.
What was missing was a sense of purpose to his life.
Then, after many years of searching for it, his purpose came to him: to share the self-transformation techniques he’d learned on his search in order to help others relieve their unnecessary pain and get out of their self-imposed straitjackets.
Steve Fogel is a principal and cofounder of Westwood Financial Corp., one of the largest owner-operators of retail properties in the United States with a portfolio of over 93 shopping centers in 23 metropolitan markets worth over one billion dollars. He is a licensed real estate broker and past chairman of the California Arts Council.
He is the author of My Mind Is Not Always My Friend: A Guide for How to Not Get in Your Own Way (Fresh River Press, 2010); The Yes-I-Can Guide to Mastering Real Estate (Times Books-Random House); and Your Mind Is What Your Brain Does for a Living: Learn How to Make it Work for You (Greenleaf Book Group Press, March 2014).